The body is a mysterious temple that relates messages to people. The body movements often
come from the hands, eyes, nose, mouth, ears, chest,
arms, shoulders, and so forth. The body
languages are
conveyed and interpreted, yet cultures, personality and other elements play a key
role in the signals conveyed. If you are out to learn body languages, how to use these languages
to gain success and how to read the signals then you are reading the right r
eport. We are on
track with many of the body languages conveyed today, yet as the writer I will bring out key points
that are often missed, including brain functions and how they affect the body’s movements. The
body can send positive or negative languages
, thus read up if you are ready to move toward
success. Starting with the art of listening through one’s eye we will move forward.
Body Language and the Art of Listening through one’s eyes:
Magic of Movements
It’s no myth that those who understand body language better excel in their workplace and in their
social circle because they know when to make the right moves. Managers, salespersons,
teachers and many more use it in their everyday life to their advantage.
Let me discuss a particular case of a meeting between the company executives and the worker
union’s leaders over increasing certain benefits for the employees. During the meeting one of the
executives passed a message that they should not give into any
more demands of the union
leaders apart from what had already been accepted in the meeting till then. While the union
leaders kept on pressing for the remaining demands, they eventually gave up after ten minutes.
Was it just some experience that told him t
o take such a decision? No, it was his knowledge of
body language that helped him and his company to come out of the meeting on fair terms.
So what did he see there? The manager saw that one of the main leaders of the worker’s union
gave signs of willingn
ess to reach to an agreement by unbuttoning his coat. Unbuttoning coat
buttons during a meeting are signals of openness and friendliness. Of course the manger not only
got accolades from his seniors but also a raise.
The way we speak and what we speak for
ms a very small portion of our dialogue. Majority of the
conversation can be understood through a person’s body language. An experienced salesperson
always looks into the eyes of his customer to see his pupils. If the pupils are dilated then it means
that
the customer is interested in the product and that it is the right time to strike.
One of the best ways of understanding the feelings of group as a whole is by observing the
gestures and expressions of all the members of the group. If the majority of the
members do not
have the same expressions then it can be very safely assumed that the thought of the entire
group is not the same and of just of a handful of individuals. This way many managers have
prevented themselves from giving into the unjust demands o
f the subordinates.
During a meeting or training program or a presentation you can very easily make out if a person
is listening to you or not. If the left hand is kept on right hand and the palms facing down then it’s
a clear cut signal that the listener
is interested in whatever you are saying. On the other hand if
the right one covers the left one then it’s a signal of disagreement or that the listener wants to
raise a point opposing yours. If a person is sitting with his arms and legs crossed and gazin
g
continuously at you without flickering his eyes then it means that the person is least interested in
what you are talking about. If a listener nods his head then it means that he is interested and is
encouraging you. On the other hand if he nods his head
rapidly then it means that he wants you
to finish quickly. If the listener narrows down his eyes occasionally or strokes his chin or pulls his
beard gently then it’s a sign of evaluation and that the listener is about to make a decision.
However, all sai
d and done, one must be wise enough to read the overall signals and not come to
any conclusion based on just any one gesture. It is the art of understanding the unspoken words
that has given an edge to those who have excelled in their respective profession
s over others
who believed the word of mouth. Let’s look into body languages and the magic movements.
Body Language and the Magic Movements
How to read body languages
How to read body languages depends on the person and how you perceive things i
n life. If you
are searching for a specific meaning, then likely you will see this meaning in the way the body
moves. Yet if you want the facts, thus you will search deeper into the person to see what you
come up with.
There are many types of body langua
ges conveyed everyday. No matter where you look you can
see a person’s body move as they speak, move, sit, stand, lie down and so forth. If a person is
lying down with his hand backwards on his forehead, likely he is either dreaming or thinking about
somet
hing he always wanted to know or see.
At what time you see a person staring off into the distant air and nothing is in view, the person
may be daydreaming or else visualizing the scenery around him. What is it you want to see?
Body languages are either
verbal or not. If the body is in a position you can determine by glance
an overall view of what the person may be feeling. Body languages express feelings, thoughts
and emotions, yet the words are the enforcers. The body languages are the backers.
What
are body languages? How can you read the languages spoken from the body? If you see a
child out in the yard walking with his head down and seem to be wandering nowhere, he is
probably lonely and wants someone to play with him. This is a sign of attention s
eeker.
A person that laughs a lot even if the situation is funny or not may be seeking attention, deranged
in the mind, or what have you. The person is probably deranged in the mind if he or she laughs
while someone is telling a bone chilling story about
someone getting hurt in the picture.
It depends on what you are seeing and what you want to see, but some people believe that if a
person is rubbing his eyes it is a sign of disbelief or the person is in doubt. If a person is rubbing
their eyes I am goi
ng to ask if they have something in their eyes or if they suffer hay fever. If the
person responds then I know what the person is feeling, since he told me in his own words what
is going on. I am not going to jump to any conclusions as to what his body is
expressing.
Some people believe if a person clasps the hands behind the back that the person is angry,
apprehensive or frustrated. I seen many people act out in this gesture and they were relaxing, or
getting in a position that made them feel comfortable
.
Yet other people may see a person rest his hands on the head and look down with the eyes, and
think he is bored. I’ve seen this gesture many times and knew that the person was thinking hard,
resting, or else considering what the other person was saying
.
Most people may feel if you are not looking a person in the eyes while speaking that the person is
ignoring you, bored with your conversation and the like. The truth is people often listen and hear
better while handling other tasks and communicating. I
won’t spend all my time looking someone
in the eyes as I speak, simply because I have other tasks on my agenda, thus I can still hear what
they are saying as they speak. Of course at an interview I would look the person in the eyes. Oh,
the body language
and the magic of it all!
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